I am pondering the things that always seem to change this time of year. It's like cleaning out one's closet except it is one's life that get's cleaned out. In the Program we call it an inventory. Just like in a store. Take stock of what you've got, see what you want to put on sale, and what just needs to go in the trash heap. And then, of course, there is *the keep* pile.
Therapy is on the keep pile, although I'm waiting to find out that it's really worth my time. I keep telling myself that my therapist doesn't really know me yet and I need to give it some time. So I will.
What once was *Coffee with Reclaiming and Friends* (for those who have committment issues) has been put on the trash pile. It was all *friends* and no Reclaiming. It was hijacked by the Meetup group. Not a bad lot as humans go but not Reclaiming. The guy that organizes the meetups even made signs that said Pittsburgh Witches Meetup Group. So people would not be confused. I was not confused. And I asked him to STOP advertising the coffees as a Reclaiming event. Cause it's not. I was the only one there who would commit or admit to being Reclaiming so since I'm not going and no one else wants even to commit to any tradition at all they need to come up with a new name.
We'll do our Reclaiming stuff at a different time in a different place and it will be called Reclaiming and it will look like Reclaiming and if they still want to play with us they are welcome. But, kindly, don't call it something else.
Okay, I'm pissed! Yep!
But, I caused my little wave and the coffees are renamed and I have fielded the emails and phone calls that begin, *What the hell was that all about?* And I did not make that decision on my own. Those us us with the metaphorical balls to call ourselves Reclaiming witches made the decision. So, it's over and although feelings were hurt there are consequences to sitting on the fence too long. Like it gets to be a pain in the ass.
And boundaries are way up there on the keep list. I've had enough crossed lately to take stock of how, exactly, I am expressing myself and revising just what I say and do so there are no grey areas wherein anyone could be confused about my physical boundaries. I will say, *No, you can't have a hug.* Because the no body language, even a hand sticking out and a step back were apparently to ambiguous.
Walking and yoga and weights are keepers too. Gotta keep the downward flow of energy bouncing back up somehow.
And Al-Anon. That is definitely a keeper.
That's it for now. Inventories don't have to be done all in one day.